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There are No Good Societies (2019)

There are No Good Societies, which was originally written as the second chapter of There Are No Good Families, is now its second volume, and a critique of culture (especially Turkish) like the first volume.

There are No Good Societies tells about the ways we adapt to society without our realizing it and how this mechanism prevents the individual and the society from really existing. It argues that all ceremonies such as engagement, marriage, weddings etc, are indeed rituals of sacrifice to a patriarchal God of society and the function they serve is different than those told to us.

The most important mirror of a person is his/her sexuality. Likewise, societies are also made up of sexuality. In order for a society to make individuals nothing more than an extension of itself, a perception of womanhood and manhood is created and reinforced through ceremonies. Each ceremony we normalize sacrifice our being to society and leads to the inner death of both the society and the individual.

The meaning we give to ceremonies also define the meaning we give to our own being and designates who owns the control of our life.

Whether it is a horse or a brand new car, the bride is “put” on/into it by other people to accentuate her passivity, and made a subject of the ceremony, like the groom. In this way, an idea that the bride -and also, the groom indeed- are not in control of their lives and they are not free to live their marriage life as they like is given to each of us who witness this scene and regard it normal. We can witness the same in Church marriages, where a parental male figure is needed to “give the bride away”.